DOUBLE “H” WAR: Holiness vs Hormone (Part 3)
Living right,
feeling right
Adesina A.
Abegunde
Sex is not Sexual Intercourse
People
have always been shocked when I say that sex is not sexual intercourse. Please note that I have not said that
sexual intercourse is not sex. Sexual intercourse is sex but sex is not
sexual intercourse.
Sex is sexual intercourse plus all the
sexual “outercourses”. Sexual
intercourse is only a subset of sex. In the next post you will get to
understand what sex is, but in this post I want to disabuse the age-long
definition of sex that limits sex to sexual intercourse.
Encarta
Dictionaries on my laptop defines sexual intercourse as “sex involving
penetration”, and yet claims that it is the same as sex. That is wrong; sex involving penetration connotes that
there could be sex not involving penetration.
Sex without penetration is also sex. I have seen people who got pregnant with
their hymen intact.
To
limit the definition of sex to sexual intercourse is incorrect, not
encompassing and in fact demonic. Demonic because it deceitfully gets many
people involved in sexual sin, having other forms of sex and thinking they are
still okay.
It
is so amazing how even the grammatical analysis bespeak of this truth. I invite
you to let us do this word analysis together. In English lessons, you will
remember that we were taught parts of speech and more in Use of English. Now
let us apply a little;
To limit the definition of sex to sexual intercourse is incorrect, not encompassing and in fact demonic
SEXUAL INTERCOURSE
SEX + UAL INTER + COURSE
SEX + UAL
In
English, we were taught parts of speech such as noun, pronoun, adjective, verb,
adverb, auxiliary verb, preposition, conjunction and interjection. The word
SEXUAL is neither a noun nor a verb, it can only be an adjective describing or
qualifying the noun intercourse or as an adverb modifying the verb intercourse
(if it is the action).
The
word sexual means something relating to or characterized by sexuality. In this
case, sexual here only describe or modify the word “intercourse” to be relating
to sex. So in the same vein we can as well talk of sexual look, sexual play,
sexual touch, sexual thought and sexual purity etc. It reveals something
involving sex, so the word sexual cannot equate the entirety of sex. They are
not synonymous.
INTER + COURSE
The
word INTERCOURSE didn’t have its origin in sex and its use is not limited to
sex. Our minds have been influenced to think of sex when we hear intercourse.
Of course I understand that when the use of a word has received a wide
acceptance apart from its original meaning it can assumed such definition over
time. So that is why you will find some dictionary defining intercourse as sex.
In
the original sense of the word, intercourse (old fashioned) means communication
and exchange between people, countries etc. In relation to sex, it refers to
coitus or copulation which is most times the last thing that people do in sex.
So, it will also be insufficient to equate it to the entirety of sex.Even some
married have this faulty mentality of sex as sexual intercourse and as such,
their sex life is so boring and frustrated.
Therefore,
to think of sex as only sexual intercourse is to be prone to be sexually impure
as a single and also sexually impure and frustrated as married.
WHAT
THEN IS SEX? That will be the content of the next week Wednesday’s post.
So
till next week, live right, feel right.
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