Holiness vs Hormone (Part 2)

DOUBLE “H” WAR: Holiness vs Hormone (Part 2)

Living right, feeling right

Adesina A. Abegunde

What do you call this?

Some years ago, I find it very difficult to ask people whether they are having sex in their relationship or not. I had no courage to probe into such a very “personal affair.” I felt it could be irritating and offensive to people and I thought they could get annoyed. Sometimes these people are the so-called spiritual bros and sis. Until a time that I gradually took courage to ask people and what I found was overwhelming shocking and many times disheartening.

The questioning follows something of this nature:

Have you had sex? (Some will look down in disappointment but many will respond with an ignorant confidence saying “No Sir”)

To those who say “no sir”, I will respond in the following manner:

Great, you mean you have never penetrated each other but do you kiss, hug tightly chest to chest, lie down side by side or on top of each other alone in the room behind a closed door and so on? And when you do them do you tell me you don’t feel sexy? Do you feel God saying “that is my daughter and son, ride on”? (at that point I usually see lots of facial distortions and head bowed).

I will then ask “What do you call this?”

Understanding what sex really entails is very critical to sexual purity

I have found the questioning so liberating for many who are caught in the snare of sin. It has enlighten several who are ignorantly engaged in “outer court” or “courtyard” of sexual sin. It has also have preventive effect on a lot of people who have never been involved in ungodly sexual acts.

Understanding what sex really entails is very critical to sexual purity. Many are involved in what Ephesians 5:11 called “unfruitful works of darkness”.

“And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of those things which are done by them in secret.” (Ephesians 5:11-12 nkjv)

What do you call all those things that people do in the dark? The wise one talking about the crafty harlot in Proverbs 7:9, talked about where she carry out her ventures;

“In the twilight, in the evening,

In the black and dark night” (nkjv)

There are many shameful things that people do in the dark, black, night, lonely, secret and behind closed doors that do not glorify God. So “What do you call this?”

Pathetically, our generation looks so smart that they have coined several names for several sins in a way to make it look nice, appealing and less convicting. We call lying being smart. We say sexual sin is freedom of expression of personal feelings. We call corruption eating the national cake and so on.

Finally, may be you are thinking is it not just kissing, just hugging, just pecking, just expression of feeling or love, we call everything just… just… just. BUT DO THEY MAKE YOU JUST BEFORE THE LORD.

In the posts ahead, we will discover together that sex is not sexual intercourse, sex is everything sexy that you yield to.

Stay blessed living right and feeling right, because it feels right when you live right.