REASONS FOR BAD MARRIAGE

REASONS FOR BAD MARRIAGE

Adesina Abegunde

Reasons for bad marriage cannot be exhaustively examined in this post, but I will point out few of them and I will be glad if you can add more reasons in the comment box below.

The following are few reasons:

1. Fear

Many are filled with fear as they think of going into a marriage. Many are due to what they have seen in their own parent’s marriage or people that they have close rapport with. Whatever is the cause of the fear, the Bible admonished us severally to “Fear not.” Job said what he feared has eventually happened to him (Job 3:25). Fear simply means giving your attention to failure, and what you give your attention will give you direction. Confess your fear to God and seek help from someone you trust.

2. Lack of guidance (both divine and human)

One thing that I was able to learn early in life and that has helped me a lot is that there is always need for guidance, ultimately from God, either directly or through human vessels. There is need for guidance before you get married and even while you are married. Don’t be ill-advised to say that God is your adviser or that Jesus is your mentor, and that you don’t need any human being. Remember the role Mary played in John chapter two. You need human beings that God is living in them and that God can guide you through them, even while you receive divine instruction and guidance from God.

3. Wrong influences and mentalities

People go into marriage with a baggage of various faulty mentalities and bad influences in their lives. Some people’s worldview is the only reason they are having a bad marriage. Who taught you the things you believe and do in your marriage? Some people’s problem are the demonic or carnal third parties that they allow in their lives.

4. Wrong expectations

As I write this point, I am just smiling because I have heard people tell me all manners of funny expectations that are so unrealistic. When you enter your marriage with wrong expectations from your spouse or the marriage itself, you would have set yourself up for a pure and applied bad marriage.

5. Deceptive self-confidence

Many youths feel that “there head is correct”, I mean they just feel that they have all it takes to run a home and are not willing to learn. If you must learn to be an engineer, then you must learn to be a husband, wife, father or mother.

6. Family curses/ evil trends

This is a reality seen in so many families. But as true as it may be, I have come to discover that every blessing or curse needs corresponding attitude to happen. What I mean is whoever claim that there is a curse in their family may also like have some attitudes that naturally won’t give them a happy home. If you notice an evil trend in your family, don’t be afraid, just be sure you are born-again and enforce your current realities in Christ over that trend. Jesus has been made a curse for you, so that you can be free.

7. Poor (or lack of) discipleship

Christ-likeness remain the only sure means to a happy marriage. I mean that the two parties involved are committed to becoming like Jesus. No other thing works more miracle in a marriage than that.

8. Poverty

“It takes finance to run romance” as my mentor will say. Many have replaced allowance with annoyance. When a man don’t have money, he resolves to muscle. Poverty has been the cause of many bad marriages. Financial intelligence and emotional intelligence are vital needs that guarantee a joyful, fun-filled, loving marriage.

I pray for you, that your marriage will work in Jesus name.

Your marriage will be a symbol of hope and encouragement, not a symbol of warning in Jesus name.

People will love to have your kind of marriage in Jesus name.

If yours is currently in a mess, God will turn it into a miracle in Jesus name.

Feel free to send me your prayer request or ask any question in case you have one.

God bless you.